On friendship
Chinese Friendship symbol
Chinese college students' views on friendship.Your comments are welcome.
Hello Panxiao
Hello Panxiao,
Thank you for writing on this blog page. You wrote such a nice response. I will be having my students get involved with this Literature blog page sometime around February or March. Please check back in when I have my students actively responding to the questions. It will be nice for you to get involved with my students at that time. Thank you for writing.
Mrs. Pauchnick
Friendship
"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."
- George Washington
This quote makes a lot of sense to me, because to have a great friend, you need to go through a lot of experiences together and it will make your bond stronger. The harder, and more emotional the experience or problem is, the stronger your friendship / bond wil be.
Jack T period 4
San Diego CA USA
Friendship!
"What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies". - Aristotle
Different people have different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the trust in an individual that he or she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship. People form definitions based on the kind of experiences they have had.
Katherine B.
San Diego, CA, USA
Period 4
A good friend
"Love is rarer than genius itself. And friendship is rarer than love." -- Charles Peguy
This quote is very meaningful to me. I have come to understand throughout my life time that a true friend is hard to come by. And one should always cherish a great friend.
Sean Mulderig, San Diego , CA, USA
how to make a good friend!
Everyone at least needs a good friend! However,most of people didn't know how to make a good frieng. I think the first you must trust each other. It is very important. Because if you don't believe in each other,you may not tell your ideas to her. The same to the other.The second you could share your opinions with her. It could makes you know more each other.Then you know what your friend needs and you should how to do.
The more in my heart for you
Thank you for your previous words ,Claudia T.
It is true that a best friend is my best family.in my school
lives ,I need friendship so much though I have four elder brothers and my belove parents.and what about you ?
The love in college
Nowadays.The love in college or university is very common in China.I want to know more about what the opinion of your American.And how to deal with the love as a college student
campus romance
College romances like the one in 'Love Story' are becoming rarer these days.
Even at tradition-steeped Transylvania University, a 228-year-old institution in Lexington, Ky., an old white ash called "The Kissing Tree," cited in2003 by the Chronicle of Higher Education as one of the most romantic spots on campuses, is no longer an "icon of intimacy," says Richard Thompson,a longtime Transylvania professor and dean. Lucie Hartmann, 21, a senior, says"no one utilizes" the spot for romance; like most students, she's intent on "using college to set a foundation for a career."
Researchers cite acouple of factors. Young adults are delaying marriage, for one thing. In the past 15 years, men's median age at first marriage has risen by 1.2 years to 27.5, and by 1.4 years for women, to 25.5, the highest in more than a century, Census Bureau data show.
Also at work is"credential inflation" -- an increase in the qualifications required for many skilled jobs, says Janet Lever, a sociology professor at CaliforniaState University, Los Angeles. Many young adults want the flexibility to relocate freely and immerse themselves in new work and educational opportunities before making room for marriage and family. As a result, students favor "light relationships that aren't going to compromise where they go to grad school or which job they take," she says.
Cody Cheetham, 22, a Purdue senior, is looking for a marketing job after she graduates in May and plans on getting an MBA. "A lot of us don't even know where we're going to be living six months after we graduate," she says. "We don't want to bring another person into the chaos of our lives."
If you're a parent,as I am, you may be wondering what all this means. Such sordid campus-life portrayals as Tom Wolfe's "I Am Charlotte Simmons" aside, the news about students' social lives isn't all bad. To be sure, the "hookup culture" -- the campus trend toward casual sexual behavior, usually linkedwith alcohol and no expectations of a continuing relationship -- is rife. Some 76% of college students have engaged in hookups, which usually stop short of intercourse, according to a study of 4,000 students by Stanford University sociology professor Paula England. Students report having had an average 6.9 hookups and only 4.4traditional dates by their senior year.
On the bright side,more students are having fun on group dates; also, deep, but platonic,male-female friendships are more common.
Many young adults return to traditional dating after graduation, says Kathleen Bogle, author of anew book, "Hooking Up," based on a study of 76 students and recent alumni. Young adults "want to find a quality person, a good person," to marry, says Ms. Bogle, an assistant sociology professor at La Salle University in Philadelphia, "and traditional dating is seen as a better way to do that" than hooking up.
With the benefit of hindsight, though, some grads may yearn for the stretches of time on campus for extracurricular activities and studying with the opposite sex. Julia Vasiliauskas broke up with her boyfriend at the University of Rochester in New York soon after her 2003 graduation, then went to grad school and began teaching near Seattle. Now that she feels ready, at 26, to find a partner,"I regret that I didn't find that person in college -- because now that I'm working, I don't have time."
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what's your comment on the above? Thanks.
FRIENDSHIP
Friendship is very important in our life. Friends are our brothers or sisters who can comfort you when you feel frustrated and offer you everything you need as possible as they can.Friends are our teachers, you learn from them and they poit out you mistakes.
Friendship Reply
I agree with you that friends are good to have because they are there for you and you can talk to them about personal problems and they will keep it secret. Friends can comfort you during difficult situations."A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have."-by anonymous writer. A good friend that is honest and will be there for you is hard to find. A good friend is one in a million and great to have.
Nick Uribe
San Diego,CA
USA
The life style of us
Every country has their own life style.I don't konw very much about foreign country , but i konw myself exectly,do you want to konw it.I'll tell you next time,because my teacher is going to turn the computer off,so...
I have not many friends but
I have not many friends but I know friends are very impotant in our whole life. I think sometimes we can have no our own beloved person but we can not have no friends.
On friendship
I have a lot of friends,they are very friendly,we share our experience with each other.Although we are not together,we get in touch with each other by QQ or phone.
I was very happy when i received friends'letters,beause i knew that they had a good lives.I hope my friends live happily.
Come on my friends!
we will be here waiting
As we are getting older and older,we can't help thinking more about our life.As a college student I can't help thinking that why I study and what can I do in the future.The real life makes many people in confusion.My major is English.But maybe because I can not do it well,so I want to run away sometimes.How can I do?
I think that true friends
I think that true friends should be cherished above all else. They are hard to come by and harder to hold on to hence the reason for this proverb: Hold a true friend with both your hands.
* Nigerian Proverb
This is true because you have to work in a friendship to keep it afloat.
So next time you are with your best friend take the time to appreciate them
Carlo Martinez San Diego,California Per.4
online friend poem
I type my love for you On the computer screen
Never will you truly know Just how much you mean
Some may say it's crazy But I don't really care
They could never understand all that we have shared
All the nights you've spent with me Felt like you were here
Always with a open heart And an open ear
I never had to wonder If you truly care
Because when I turn on my computer Your words are always there.
Anonymous
J Ward, P4, San Diego, CA, USA
A nice poem.You wrote it
A nice poem.You wrote it yourself?
Quotes on friendship
Hello,all,
What's your coment on the following quotes from some people?
Real friendship is a rare and precious gift, strong,
stable, yet fragile, and never to be taken for granted.
~GAgirl
"Friendship is the only cement
that will ever hold the world together"
-Woodrow Wilson
"Treat your friends as you do your pictures,
and place them in their best light."
~ Jennie Jerome Churchill
"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art...
It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things
that give value to survival."
~C.S. Lewis
"In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies,
but the silence of our friends."
~ Martin Luther King Jr.
"Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows."
~ author unknown
"Friendship without self - interest is one of the rare
and beautiful things of life."
~ James F. Byrnes
My friendships
When one has a real friend, she will feel the necissarity
of friendship in her whole life.
Sometimes,I like to think it as a kinship , a worthwhile
thing to cherish .I have a best friend ,and we went through a
hard period of time in our jenior school.we shared our disclosure ,our sworrow and our happinees. maybe it also need much torlerence and lots of strenght to be a friend
Of course it can make us learn much from the holy friendship
It is a really wonderful emotion in the world of friendship
Hello Cai yan, I agree but
Hello Cai yan,
I agree but at the same time disagree with you. I do think that being a good friend requires more than just having fun. Real friends listen, real friends say the truth even if it hurts. I agree with you on that, but what I don't agree with you on is the topic about Best Friends, I might sound extremely negative or cold but I don't believe there is such thing as best friends. Of course I did at a point in my life but I realized that there are only Good Friends.
Claudia T.
San Diego C.A
United States
Friendship
When one has a real friend, she will feel the necissarity
of friendship in her whole life.
I like what you have said about friendship. No man is a failure who has friends. That is the truth. What point is there to life if you don't have friends?
"Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you."
-- Elbert Hubbard
-Kyle Beard, San Diego, CA, USA
New Quote
Hi Cai Yan,
I agree that a friend is amazing to have and a best friend is even better. They are the one person that you can tell everything to. They support you (even if they don't agree) they let you lean on them when you need a shoulder to cry on. They are always there for you.
"Friends are the family we choose for ourselves"-Edna Buchanan I really think that this is extremely true. You can't choose your family but the friends you choose are your "extended family." What you can't tell your family you can tell your friends. And if they are true friends they won't desert you they will support you and trust your judgment.
--Erica A. San Diego, CA
Friendship
I think that everyone needs friends.We live in the world .We may have all kinds of trouble.We will need the help of friends.And if we have no friends ,we will feel lonely.We all like playing with our friends together.It makes us happy.When we help our friends ,we will be very happy and have a sense of success.
We can learn from our friends. We can get much.It is very important for us.We can become grow-up as we care about our friends.We can know many reasons.
let us enjoy friendship as much as possible.It will make our lives colourful.
Friendship
A cheerful friend is like a sunny day spreading brightness all around.And i treasure our friendship ,no matter where we are ,we always be in touch with each other.Sometimes we are too busy ,so we send messsages to each other.So simple it is ,it is happy enough for us.
friendship
I have a best friend in hight school ,I think a good friend should like her .Not only someone share everythink with you,but also set an good example for you ,make you have more love on life .of couse ,you should have the same interest ,at lest most of them are the same.
I agree with you. You and
I agree with you. You and your friends should like the same things. Friends are really fun to have but when things go down in your life you have them to lift you back up. Friendships are the most important to me because they are there when I need them or when I want to get away from my family. I wouldn't know what to do if I didn't have my best friend.
Georgene Zavala
San Diego, CA, U.S.A
friendship
A friend in need is a friend indeed.
you are quite right,i am
you are quite right,i am agree with you .
I hope to make a friend with you.
Friendship
Friends are those who accept ,confide in and feel responsible for each other. TO be friends means sharing with and listening to each other ,no matter sweet or bitter. As a friend , we should get as much as pay and be there when he or her gets trapped. As the saying goes ,friends in need are friends indeed.
Friends should go forward together and help each other grow up. When one goes the wrong way ,friends should give advice and try our best to lead him or her back to the right way.
Friends ,in fact ,should pay more than get.
Pangjiantao, I agree with
Pangjiantao,
I agree with you on friendship when you say you feel responsible for each other. I like this proverb that says, "Friendship is a responsibility...
not an opportunity." Being responsible for friends means taking care of them. You are responsible for making them feel better, and for defending them. I like how you put the saying "Friends in need are friends indeed". That is very true. Are there any famous Chinese quotes on friendship that people say?
Kayla A.
San Diego, CA
USA
a true friend
As an old going says:"a friend in need is a fiend indeed." In my opinion, a true friend is the one who can try her best to help you when you are in trouble. May be there is no need to have too many friends,but the friends you have must be good and sincere.We should choose to make good friends,and once become friends we should cherish and maintaine it. It is very grateful and happy to have a true friend. For a true friend means that you can believe in her completely,you can talk with her anything no matter how sad or happy it is. She is always there to listen to you patientely.More or less, she may give you some advise and say some gentle words to comfort you and even tell some jokes to make you laugh.Because she know that ,the more you laugh,the faster you will be heal.
Friendship is one of the
Friendship is one of the greatest pleasure that people can enjoy.It implies loyalty, cordiality,sympathy,affection and readiness to help.To have a friend,be a friend.Lilf without a friend is like death without a witness.Friends will give a hand to you when you are in trouble,you will be encouraged by your friends.A friend is a person with whom you share happiness and sorrow.Having a friend,you will feel comfortable and happy in daily life.A fiend in need is a friend indeed,so friends should sink or swim together.In my opinion,friends should understand and believe each other.May all friendship last forever in the world!
Friendship
Friends are those who accept ,confide in and feel responsible for each other. TO be friends means sharing with and listening to each other ,no matter sweet or bitter. As a friend , we should get as much as pay and be there when he or her gets trapped. As the saying goes ,friends in need are friends indeed.
Friends should go forward together and help each other grow up. When one goes the wrong way ,friends should give advice and try our best to lead him or her back to the right way.
Friends ,in fact ,should pay more than get.
FRIENDSHIP
I agree with you Pang. A real friend is someone you can confide in with your problems. You should always try to be honest with a close trustworthy friend. Besides your parents and family one always needs other people to talk to about struggles in life. Friends should help one another grow. Give them advice when they are in need. Friends can even turn into family and that is the most beautiful part about friendship.
Raquel I, San Diego, CA, USA
On friendship
First,I think friendship is great!Good friendship means wealth.Among good friends,they always share happiness and sorrow,no matter where others are.A good listener,advicer even teacher is very important to each other.Play with each other and learn from each other.Also,I thing giving more than geting
FRIENDSHIP!!!
A good friend will stick with you through the good and the bad. They will help you when you are down and they are always the best to be around when you are happy. I really agree that your friends are your teachers. We all learn so much from our friends and also teach each other a lot. I always say "you are who your friends are" because when you hang out with someone so much you often share ideas with each other and adopt each others beliefs. Giving more than you receive is a good motto to live by because you will always be happy and feel good about yourself. Do you have a best friend?
Kassity Wotring Per. 4
San Diego, CA, USA
My favorite quote explains
My favorite quote explains the way that I feel about the people who are close to me. It says that the best things in life cannot be bought. Yes, a true friend will always be there to support you and help you through both good and bad times.
"Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends." -- Cindy Lew
yes i agree with you,i think
yes i agree with you,i think a good friend is the one tne need when you are down,so love your firends and believe in your friends.
Freind and friendship
Friend are one of the best things in life,but each one is diffent-there's the friend who takes care of you like a sis,the friend who ia always joking around.No matter what kindof friend they are,they'are all great,because they see you though the good and not so good times.So,do you think what kind of friend you belongs to?
Reply to He Huiling
Hey He Huiling! I agree with you, I think we have many different kinds of friends. I have certain friends for when I want to go have fun, and friends that comfort me, and even friends to study with. Some friends I only see at school and others I hang out with all the time. Although some of my friends are better than others, I appreciate them all. What is the longest friendship you have?
J Ward, P4, San Diego, CA, USA
Friendship
I agree with a lot of what you said. Real friends are the ones who stick with you through the good and the bad. Like you said, their are different types of friendship. Most people have at least one friend that their really close to, and can share anything with. i think that is a really good thing because then you have trust and care for them. No matter what happens they like you and you like them.
Ralph Waldo Emerson was right when he said, "The only way to have a friend is to be one." To make a good friend you have to be a good friend.
Alex W.
California, USA
On friendship
When talking about friendship,someone may say,"I do not care about that and I do not feel lonely,so I do not think friendship is important to me." Well,I would say,if someone say these,he must be alone and have no friends to confide in.I can not imagine that kind of life without friends!There is a saying,"A friend in need is a friend indeed."When I was in high school,I met a girl who later became my best friend,we did not spend all the time together but we gotalong well with each other,we did things together.What I appreciate most is that she did not make jokes on me or laughed at my mistakes,on the contory,she would lend me a hand as much as she could. Since friendship is very important for us,we need to do our best to maintain it.
frienship
A friend in need is a friend indeed. this is a famous proverb. And we need friends in life.
In my opinion, a good friend who can shares my experience with me. When i was happy, he or she enjoyed the happiness with me; when i was very sad, he or she comfored and encoraged me.What's more, i was in trouble, he or she helps me to get rid of the trouble.
I have a good friend, we get on well with each other. And we also encourage with each other in life. We believe that we are good friends forever.
Friendship is beautiful,so we must value it!
friendship
friend is an important word to us !!!we all need friends .we do not judge form his or her appearance but the interest and beautiful soul.you will benefit form good friends for a life time .that is the power!!! most of us are common people,we need a true frinedship.it may not involve so much other things such as money or violence.making friends also need skills.
I totally agree with you
I totally agree with you saying that friends are important. We all need friends. People will be happier if they make a lot of friends. One or two of these friends will be the ones who you can totally trust and share the secrets. Friends are stars in the dark night that lead you to the right ways. As time is passing, you make new friends while some of them walk by. The real friend will stay. And that is the one who will stand by in your life.
Lihua H, SD,CA,USA
English
In my opinion, a real friend should be a person who will listen to you after you made a mistake and trust you, always stands by your side. A good friend is who you think of when you feel sad.I have a good friend at same age.We were in the same class. When we are together we always fell happy.Happiness went around us.We slept in a small bad saying something that we don't want to tell others before an exam.
I learnt much from her.Because she was a sanguine person.She ofen says that don't worry ,be happy. So it is she who taught me to be confident.
We have much in commen ,such as both we like eat hot food, like to go to the same shop to eat yuntun, we both like playing badminton and pingpong.
Now we are far away from each other.I miss her very much.
I velue the time when we are together.
I believe we are friends forever.
Friendship
I agree with your ideas about friendship. Sometimes best friends can have almost everything in common and thats why we enjoy spending so much time with them. I think it is interesting that my best friend and I have so much in common but at the same time we can be opposites. The differences in our personalities compliment each other perfectly so that she has everything that I don't. And the other way around too. I also agree that once you gain a friend, you two can be friends forever. If you really are close enough with that person, distance and time will not separate you! Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I had never met one of my friends, I think about how I would be different, and all the memories that I could have missed out on. Do you think about this too?
Amanda P.
San Diego, CA, USA
I've never thought about
I've never thought about this. Because who you will meet is destined. Before we meet we can't know what will happend. Love and friendship both are the gifts the God gives us.We don't need to think about what wil happend if I had not met one of them. wWe just need to velue what we are having now.
But i wanna think about thins situation now. Perhapse I will be quite different. All my friends are part of my life, if some one were absent, in certain period of time I might be hollow.The feeling just like I can't find myself,sa somebody put it that friend is a mirror of you, you can see your own shadow from him or her.
I enjoy making friend with who of opposite sex, but my boy friend always be jealous. I don't knoe how to deal with it. Can you give some suggestion?
friendship in my mind
We are a group in the world.We can not live by ourselves.Around us.there are relations friends and other people.Friends are special people. when we play with them we feel very happy and comfortable.Friendship is very important to me.When I stay with friends,I will talk many things to them.We do not need to talk very much but can understand each other.I beieve when my friend and I buy tow ice-creams but I want to eat my friend's,she(he) will change with me without any reasons.Friend like my sunshine,they make me feel warm in the winter.
What kind of friends do you like to make?
I like to make a friend who is kind and thoughtful.He has to be nice to people,ready to help those who need help.He must think of others before he starts to think of himself.If I am late for a meal he is ready to get me some food.Definitely,I would like to do the same to him.If I feel troubled he might spend some time talking with me about my problems.He would like to share my ideas about life.He has to be intelligent and humorous.I would like to have a friend who sets me an example in learning.If I have problems in studies that I could not solve myself,I could go to ask him to help.I also would like to have friend who has a sense of humour.Some jokes might cheer me up and make me happy.
And what about your?I hope you can share me your opinions.